Impact of Prevention Education Part 6: A Summary
Every day problems come up in a typical family. When families have emotional and social difficulties, it is hard for them to find a way to grow into teenagers and then adults. Rebelliousness, along with peer pressure, can be destructive. For this reason, parents need to offer their teens support, involvement, and guidance. Because children at this age are experiencing struggles with identity, it is a time when many of them experiment with unhealthy choices. In one of their pamphlets, the Partnership for a Drug Free America (1998) states that although teens may not show they appreciate it, parents profoundly shape the choices their children make. Probably one of the reasons why children do not listen when told what to do is because they are not allowed to sort through their own thoughts about things. Adults always feel they have the right answers for the children. If children felt more respected, perhaps this in turn, this will increase the level of respect the children will give, especially to the parents.
In this class, I experienced what I always knew, that everyone has a different perspective on things. I learned that the way I feel about myself is not necessarily the same view point others have about me. This is also important when leading groups with children. It is important to ask the child what happened so that you know what the actual situation is and not your interpretation. Making assumptions can only hinder the relationship with a child, just like it can in any other situation. I have discovered this in the group process of our group in this class. In addition, I learned that when leading a group, the members are more prone to follow your lead and are less resistant in appreciating your views if you are not degrading and involve each member in the decision making process.
This is the point I want to make to these parents about their parenting styles. If they want to control their children’s behavior then they might get the results they want because their children fear them. This is compared to the authoritative leading style. Is it not healthier to teach children how to deal with their own problems rather than mandating certain behaviors of them? Children who think through their problems care about themselves and others and are more successful at making friends, and at making responsible decisions in light of their potential consequences (Shure, 2000).
This program will hopefully fill the gap of communication between children and their parents so that the children can feel empowered to make wise decisions. This will decrease the number of children residing in Paterson who will eventually be labeled “juvenile delinquents” and decrease the number of children who end up losing their lives to unhealthy lifestyles. A strong family foundation is the key to achieving this goal.
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Stout, Bruce D., (2003). Community Re-Entry of Adolescents from New Jersey’s Juvenile Justice System. New Jersey: The New Jersey Institute for Social Justice and the New Jersey Public Policy Research Institute’s Re-Entry Roundtable.
Office of National Drug Control Policy, Drug Policy Information Clearinghouse (2004). State of New Jersey Profile of Drug Indicators. New Jersey: ONDCP
Molgaard, Virginia. & Spoth, Richard. The Strengthening Families Program: For Parents and Youth Retrieved November 23, 2004, from http://www.strenghteningfamilies.org
U.S. Department of Education (1998). Growing Up Drug Free: A Parent’s Guide to Prevention.
New York: The Whit House Office of National Drug Control Policy & Partnership for a Drug-Free America.
Shure, Myrna B., (1992) I Can Problem Solve: An Interpersonal Cognitive Problem-Solving Program. Champaign: Research Press.
Israeloff, R., Shure, Myrna B., (2000) Raising a Thinking Preteen. New York: Henry Holt and Company, LLC.